Are You Protecting Your Energetic Boundaries?

Boundaries are an important part of self-care, but often one of the most neglected. You might think that you have strong boundaries, but it may be that you’re letting more in on an energetic level than you realise.

If you’ve ever struggled with empathy, taking on others’ energy and emotions or having trouble understanding what is yours and what is someone else’s, this might be the root cause.

Physical boundaries vs energetic boundaries

It’s important to understand that physical and energetic boundaries are two very different types of boundaries. Physical boundaries are about who you let into your physical space, what you say yes or no to, and what you set as acceptable or not with others.

But often, your energetic boundaries may be wide open! This is common for people who are empathic and sense other people’s feelings or what is happening beyond the spoken word.

You might go into situations with open energetic boundaries and feel everything. But you’re often unsure what is your own and what belongs to someone else, so you walk around feeling and absorbing everything.

You might avoid situations such as large shopping centres where many people congregate, as it feels heavy or exhausting. There might be people where you feel like they take from your energy, or you carry over their emotions afterwards.

If you don’t have the discernment to allow the energy of others to flow through and away, it can be detrimental to your wellbeing. That’s why you need to take steps to protect your energetic boundaries.

Our imprints about boundaries start in utero

When we’re in the womb, everything around us can create an imprint. If the mother is stressed or anxious, she can draw on her baby’s adrenal energy. You often hear this with women who were exhausted until they fell pregnant.

This sets the baby up with the pattern of giving and sacrificing self to sustain others. When they grow up, they will give to everyone — family, children, colleagues, friends — but will be constantly exhausted by it. Even when they nourish themselves with food, energy or self-care, it floods back out into those they give to.

It’s also common with vanishing twins. The remaining twin has a pattern of yearning, searching for connection and love. They have wide-open boundaries because of their desire to find that connection again.

Twins often have a telepathic bond thanks to the greater unity and love between them. So when one is lost, the other will reach into others with every interaction in the hopes of rediscovering that connection. It comes from love, but also from the fear of never finding it and a real sense of loss.

When I work with clients, we clear away these fears of abandonment and the grief it brought. That way, they are able to come from a beautiful open heart, but also have the ability to allow in who and what they want. It is easier for them to disconnect and cut away what doesn’t belong to them afterwards without feeling that sense of loss or guilt.

By addressing these imprints, we can start to strengthen our energetic boundaries and support our own wellbeing.

Are you giving energy or taking on other’s energy?

Consider how your energetic boundaries are. In my experience, there are two main situations you might be experiencing, and they can often overlap.

The first is that you’re reaching into others to feel what they feel. After supporting somebody, you might feel frustrated, angry or upset, even if you were fine beforehand. This is you taking on their energy and emotions, which can leave you depleted.

The second is that you give your energy to others. You allow others to take from you, which is taking away the energy that nourishes you. This is common for women, as we give from motherhood, from societal conditioning and from our cultures. It is a beautiful thing to be of service to others, but not if it’s at the detriment to your self and your wellbeing.

Are you absorbing from others, or are you being depleted by others? When you start to understand how you operate, you can look at how to shift it. This allows you to feel and give, but from a strong sense of who you are and what you need for yourself.

This all comes back to where the belief system around your boundaries began. When we uncover the fears and patterns causing these reactions, we can heal and change it. You can learn a new way of responding and showing up in your world.

Do you want to strengthen your energetic boundaries by clearing what was formed in utero? Through accessing your subconscious using Kinesiology we can do exactly that.

With love

Anna x

Anna Carson

Intuitive Kinesiologist, Mentor and Guide

www.annacarson.com.au

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